The REAL Reason You are Sick

I’ll give you a hint…it has a little to do with stuffing your emotions.  And no, I’m not telling you your illness is in your head or worse—not “real.”  What I’m actually telling you is that there is massive SUPER POWERS in your emotions, and you can use them to your benefit…

Hear me out…

When we get sick, it’s easy to believe that someone infected us with their germs, we ate something that must have contained a pathogen or that we were simply unlucky. Unfortunately, we can get sick in a number or ways from catching a common cold to dreaded cancer or heart disease. In fact, heart disease, diabetes, and arthritis are all forms of sickness, but since these conditions are so rampant, we have been steered by the medical community to believe these are not states of illness, but so-called “medical conditions” that require medical treatment.

But this may not always be the case….

Our bodies and minds are interrelated and connected more than we realize. I would actually go so far as to say your body is your subconscious mind, reflecting your innermost thoughts, fears and even successes. I know I am going to get shit for that one…but hey if everybody likes you—you have more problems than anyone else in the room.

Did you know that physical pain and emotional pain affect similar areas in the brain? This concept is not so hard to grasp when you consider what stress is…

What is Stress?

Let’s get a little nitty gritty here. We all know what it feels like to feel stressed.  Unfortunately, my 12-year-old daughter even talks about being stressed sometimes. (The modern world will do that to you!)  But let’s break stress down a bit further.  Knowledge and awareness are key to healing.

Stress is defined as the physical reaction to change which requires a response. Our bodies react to changes whether they are physical, emotional or mental and we experience stress.

Stress can be positive, such as extreme and heightened excitement from a roller coaster at Magic Mountain or it can be physical stress from kicking ass in the gym, which results in positive outcomes.

But stress can be unhealthy and cause a number of physical alterations that result in health problems like irregular or racing heartbeat, ulcers, high blood pressure, headaches and lowered immunity. And, as most are aware, but don’t consider when physically ill–much of the mental and emotional stress we experience results in these exact symptoms.

But stress is a combination of different physical reactions to various emotions.

Our emotions are directly related to our HEALTH and WELL BEING or LACK THEREOF. Unresolved fear, anxiety, grief and sadness are all forms of stress on the body. Fear and anxiety, especially when repressed (stuffed down) are linked to poor digestive health and adrenal fatigue. Unresolved sadness and grief lower our immunity and fear and anxieties can cause cortisol fluctuations, resulting in weight gain. Each form of stress carries its unique set of chemical influences in the body. 

But so-called “positive” emotions, such as happiness, love, and joy that are unexpressed and repressed also create health problems—in fact, IMO, they are responsible for the most detrimental health problems.  For example, if we consciously or unconsciously repress happiness, we are unable to access it and achieve expansion and relief out of that feeling of stress. The expansive emotions are also stress on the body because they are a response to change.  So when we don’t express them, they also get lodged in the system the same way more constricting emotions do.

Now, you may be asking, why the hell anyone would repress happiness–and yet, I bet if you think about it, you will be able to remember more than a few times you’ve done the same thing. 

Take the expansive emotion of gratitude–perhaps someone gifted you something and you felt grateful, but you also felt entitled or even ashamed, so you didn’t express the gratitude.  Hard to admit, but these things happen all the time.  Or here’s one that is SUPER common…you fall in love, but you are afraid that the person doesn’t feel the same, or you fear they are going to ultimately leave you–so you shove the love down to protect yourself.  Point being, we shove feelings down all the time, and they create

Which results in ILLNESS. 

It all starts with our emotions and our responses to our emotions.

We see this on an individual scale, but this also happens on a very large scale too.  For example—one CEO’s unresolved emotional state of GREED, can shape an entire company.  When the company’s psychology is formed out of greed rather than the desire to serve, we end up with companies that are operating from a mentally ill state, often creating products or services that are literally made out of greed.  This body of greed creates a sick environment which filters outward into the larger world.  

Stress Weakens Immunity

Back to you. 

So, no matter what form of stress or emotions you experience, one thing that is common to all is its effect on your bodily systems. Each form of stress interrupts normal functioning, and your overall psychology–this leads to weakness; including weakness to our immunity. This means when we do come into contact with the common pathogens that cause illness like a cold or flu, our bodies cannot combat it as it should.

If we come into contact with the conditions that cause cancer, our bodies are less equipped to fight the illness. And possibly even more shocking, studies show that hostility, anger, depression and anxiety all increase the risk of getting type 2 diabetes! (1)

Emotions Affect Immunity

There is a growing body of evidence that our emotional and immunological response are deeply connected. We know that our emotions are often a result of external factors as well as our internal health. But there is a body of scientists that consider the immune system to be a sensory organ that also responds to external stimuli and changing conditions of the environment.

One excellent illustration of this process is through a cycle that many of us are aware of:

Chronic stress causes depression which in turn causes internal inflammation, which greatly increases the risk for heart disease and other deadly disorders.

The cycle could potentially also begin in a different order such as: chronic internal inflammation causes depression which greatly increases the risk for heart disease along with a host of other diseases.

We could also say that going back to the example from above, about companies operating from unresolved greed are feeding us inflammatory foods, medications, or even media that creates stress and inflammation & we absorb that environment which creates more illness…


One thing is for sure, and that is that we are in one vicious cycle that requires a NEW approach for treatment, because the old one isn’t working anymore! (If it ever really was)

Which leads me to my point if this article…

The reason I am brining this all up, is to provide a little insight into the nature of health, and so you do not need to fall victim to the belief of so-called “medical conditions” that “happen to you.” We live in a paradigm that has taught us that we are simply unlucky and have no dominion or say in regards to our health and well-being beyond eating healthy and exercising.  (But then we are inundated with a gazillion fad diets and food pyramids created by corporations, so don’t even know how to do that)

The truth is, YOU DO HAVE A SAY IN YOUR HEALTH.  Yes, terrible things happen, and NO, your illness is not your FAULT.  But, your health can be within your personal authority. Today, it is generally considered by those in the medical profession (at least in research) that anger, stress and rage are the main emotions linked to heart disease.  Learning to MASTER or at least channel these constricting energies and emotions can be helpful for your overall health and wellbeing; and probably just as helpful for those around you. J

So, how do we master our emotions? As a culture, we are very conditioned to believe that our emotions simply happen with no control by us. But this is not true. Many emotions like anger, jealousy or even sadness are conditioned responses that we have learned. As “they” say, there are two sides to every story, and we can see that as the positive and the negative of each situation.

We can learn lessons from any negative experiences and enjoy the positive ones. But some situations are traumatic, so how do we deal with that? I believe it is up to us to feel our grief and work through it as best we can. Many people have used their grief to create positive outcomes such as a foundation or to help others. It may take effort, but it is doable.

As I just talked about, our immune system is directly linked to our emotional state. With that being said, this does not mean we don’t have to pay attention to lifestyle factors like diet, alcohol consumption and exercise. Our bodies have literally trillions of particles and energy patterns that do respond to a healthy lifestyle. Our emotions and the environment we create work together to either keep us well or succumb to illness and disease.

We can benefit most by working on all areas of our lives including being mindful of our thoughts and emotions, incorporate healthy lifestyle factors and include stress relieving or meditative techniques that seem to keep our spiritual selves healthy.

In my online course The Harmony Keys I offer basic hacks and life changing ways to transform your life by healing old stuffed emotions.  I break down the four different types of emotions, where they get energetically stuck (yes, we are all made up of energy, you know, that atomic stuff that the stars are made of) and how to release them. 

We have collectively been stuck in a vicious cycle of illness and emotional repression for too long.  Those ways are no longer working.  Luckily, we now have the science and the technology to prove that Chinese Medicine has been correct all along, that unresolved emotions are the real reason why you are sick.

Learn how to heal that sickness from a new paradigm in The Harmony Keys course.


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